A Funny Observation

"Them that's got shall get, them that's not shall lose/So the Bible says, and it still is news..." (Billie Holiday, "God Bless The Child")

I noticed the funniest thing about me, that may be true of other women as well. That is, if one woman shoots a brother down in the presence of other women, it's kind of like he's marked. Nobody else at the club, party, or website wants him. Seriously.

"Hey, lady, what's your name? Maybe we can get to know each other...can I get your number."

"Hell no. Get yo triflin', good for nothing self out mah face!"

So, he goes to the lady across the room, who was scoping him out at first, but then...

"Hey, lady, how you doin' tonight. I noticed you from across the room and..."

Before he can finish, she walks away.

Or she says:

"You seem really nice, but I got a boyfriend. Sorry."

Or

"You know what, you're not exactly my type."

Or

"Leave me alone...SECURITY!!!"

I swear, it's the same online. Brothers, when you comment on a sister's page, and she responds with a rejection, here's a tip:

ERASE IT.

Lol. I kid you not. I realized this just now, when I took a look at my Myspace page. I got a couple of friend requests, and on one I saw that the guy and I had a couple of mutual friends. Nice looking fellow, but when I looked at his page, saw that he was 23.

ST--EEE--RIKE ONE!

Went a little further down, and saw the first three comments from his baby's mom. "When you comin get your son? I need to know..."

Baby mama drama publicly played out. He ain't takin care of business, and she's puttin it out there? Ugh!

ST--EEE--RIKE TWO!!!

And a little further down, one after the other:

"I told you we can't talk, I got a man."

And

"No, I don't wanna have a conversation with you. Leave me alone!"

And

"You're ugly. I'd rather not..."

ST--EE-RIKE THREE! YOU'RE OUT!!!

Before I realized what I'd done, I'd gone back to my friend requests and clicked on 'Reject'.

A darned shame. Seriously, though, fellas, survey the room before you step to a female. If you notice one scopin you out, you go to her first. Talk a moment, offer YOUR phone number...she's more likely to accept and possibly reciprocate. Then go to the cuter one you saw that you really wanted to step to. You'll be more confident, and it is possible that she'll have noticed the pleasant exchange between you and the other girl--sparking a bit of interest, maybe even a bit of competitive envy.

As for online interactions, don't make a public comment about wanting to get with her. Send her a note, especially if it's Myspace. That serves two purposes: first of all, you can look at your outbox on that site and see if she actually read it, and second, if you get a rejection, it's private--not public.

In other words, don't let public putdowns diminish your image.

The Struggle Continues

"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." (Eph. 6:12, KJV)

"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities,against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." (Eph. 6:12, NIV)

Metaphysical meaning: Heavenly realms = the mind, the consciousness. To wrestle, or struggle in the arena of the mind is to fight the inclinations to do that which is not godly. That is, to follow the desire to feed the hunger of the lower self for lust, revenge, and all manner of things not conducive to elevation.

If we wish to elevate the outer Self, that is, to bring ourselves to the places that we want to be in life, we must allow the Higher Self--the God in us--to prevail in every situation. That is, we must bring into subjection all things in the carnal body that would go against the spiritual.

The struggle contnues...

Going Ghost

"One of these mornings, won't be very long/You will look for me, and I'll be gone..."

Optimistic About the Days to Come

There are so many opportunities arising for me right now I hardly know where to begin. I got some good news about one of my children's books, "Love Yourself". It started out as just a family history to help my little ones tie themselves to world history (by highlighting famous, infamous, and other notable relatives), and became a universal Afrikan children's story. Instead of just one book, I decided to make it a series of books. Anyway, someone has offered to publish the series! I'm excited because I explained to him that I want realistic illustrations of Afrikan life, and he suggested using photographs instead of drawn illustrations. Between the two of us, we've hatched out some wonderful ideas that should be brought into fruition by the beginning of next year.

I've also been working with this brother who's producing other forms of children's entertainment. He's asked me to do some promotional work for him, which while it won't make me rich, looks like it'll pay off big. I help him bring his products to the south, he helps me get back into business for myself. It's a winning situation all around. I'll be posting more info on that really soon.

As for the old personal life (lol), things have been working themselves out. You know how Lauryn Hill sang, "What you want might make you cry, and what you need might pass you by if you don't catch it..." ("When It Hurts So Bad")? Well, I've seen enough crying to last me a lifetime. Let's just say I'm not about to let what I want get in the way of what I need this time. Not going into much detail on that, just putting it out there.

Well, that's it for now. If you need me, I'll probably be playing Biotronic on fb. Lol. Later!